Saturday, May 31, 2008
The Case for Miranda Hobbs
I would like to make a case for Miranda Hobbs, arguably the least popular of the gal pals featured on HBO's "Sex and the City" and upcoming movie. Smart, driven, honest and confident I can see how she isn't your typical female character. Unlike Carrie, she was financially stable and owned her own home. She was a loyal friend and often put their problems over her own, unlike Charlotte. She enjoyed sex, like Samantha, but unlike her she also enjoyed steady relationships. And unlike all the girls, she ended the show with the single woman's dream: the career, the guy, the kid, the house and the maid.
Unconventionally level-headed and straight-minded, Miranda Hobbs was a unique addition to the canon of women TV characters. She defied a slew of stereotypes that labeled women as either bleeding heart wanna-be housewives or hard as nails man-haters. Un-self-conscious in a way that most women on TV can only dream, Miranda endeared herself to me during those moments when she simultaneously showed off that Harvard Law education and that healthy dose of estrogen. She was Carrie's best friend, probably because she would put her in her place every once in awhile (remember when Carrie skipped out on helping Miranda up from the bathroom floor, and sent Aiden instead? Carrie didn't apologize and immediately launched into an essay on her problems. Miranda was quick to remind her sometimes selfish friend "that's bullshit!") and tried to refrain from judging the other two, even when she didn't agree with their choices.
A credit to the writers, I loved how Miranda truly owned her sexuality, much more than Carrie (hello! Ms. Bradshaw had the most b-o-r-i-n-g sex scenes on the history of HBO) and Charlotte, who disguised her whoreish ways by saying that every guy she met would be her future husband. Next to Sam, she was probably the best in bed...remember when she bedded the hot cop in Season 3 and told him, drunkenly, "I'm no Mena Suvari, but I'm great in bed!"
But the overwhelming evidence that puts Miranda up there as one of my favorite TV characters ever is the fact that she refused to be a doormat for anyone. I'm sure this next statement will come with much flack, but Carrie, Charlotte and even Samantha, allowed the men in their lives to use them, damage them and toss them aside for the next poor sap. Carrie's Big, who consistently pushed her away, got married while they were technically still together and willingly made her the "other woman," can't be blamed for all of that. Carrie can. Charlotte and Trey, who refused to stand up to his mother and allowed Bunnie, his impotency and her barrenness to end their marriage (which, by the way, he ended, not her.) And, to a lesser extent, Samantha and Richard. Miranda wouldn't stand for that nonsense and got the guy anyway.
She stands as a shining beacon of hope for all the women against silly girls everywhere, the voice that reminds us that our lives don't exist to be half of a couple, but to be one whole of a woman. I haven't seen the movie yet, but long live Miranda, Steve, Brady, Magda, Scout and Fatty as an example of what being smart and in love can get you.
As a sidenote: I really do love Carrie, Samantha and Charlotte. I just felt the need to defend Ms. Hobbs and point out to some subjective viewers her many merits.